a lil talk to my sisters

We read em, but we dont practice.The uncommon common rules that every lady should know and apply..


1. Never compromise on how you want to be treated.(from the start, ensure that your partner is aware of your values, your beliefs, your dreams…and ensure that they know where you have placed your bar, such that if they cant fit, they take a walk). Someone once told me that "you mostly to be treated by the way you present yourself"
 

2. Never be the one who is always making the first attempts at communicating. being the sweety gal does not pay...heheheee...you are always initiating the communication,,uko busy like a customer care 24/7 texting and calling, while he never calls or texts.


3.Refuse to be treated in a second rate manner my sister. Yes, do not allow yourself to be treated as a house girl.hahah(kufua manguo, kufanya mausafi..hehee put a ring on it first hafu ndo kazi zifanyike...

4. Do not allow yourself to be treated as a means to an end. That he only calls you when he is horny, only calls you late at night when the whole world is asleep, and groans drunkenly on how much he has ‘missed you..’ or he only calls you when all his friends are away and he needs someone to fill in that void, to numb the silence or just use you when he wants to make other women jealous. You are a woman, you are not a toy!

5. In as much as there are people who meet through social networks and go ahead to live happily ever after, but lady, refuse to be the one who leads them on…so you have never met and all he can chat with you about how ‘ripe’ you look, how he would love to flip you and do BAD BAD stuff with you, as much as we love social networks, dont be a victim..

6. Do not try slithering into his heart by liking his relatives and friends, hoping that when he sees how cute you are with those that are close to him, then he will fall heads over heels for you. Heeeey! Its not true…no matter how many clothes you buy for his sisters and how many rounds you order for his buddies, if he wants out, he will sneak out through any space available. And trust me, those relatives, those friends, they will jump ship as soon as a new woman gets in. moreover, no matter how much they pledge allegiance to you and swear to love you forever, there is just so little that they can do when the man puts an end to it

7.Do not think that by crowding him with love messages, asking him to account for where he is, calling all his friends and acting all insecure will make him be faithful to you! hehhe tena ndo utadanganywa hadi ukae chini...(being faithful is a decision of which one chooses to tke)

8. Avoid men with scanty focus-stay away from men of a certain age who still stay with their parents,those who do not get ashamed of taking coins from their mamas to ‘support’ themselves. singing"i aint no worries at 35, on his mama's bed.

9. Never try changing for a man…do not change your life, give yourself a complete make over just to fit into his description of perfection."be yourself and let him love you just the way you are"

10. Never cheat yourself that he is just flirting with other women, but that you are the one. If he is flirting with other women, then it means he has gotten so comfortable, and is sure you aint going anywhere(once upon a time, this happened,,heheh)

11. Never act desperate. Never. Never. Never. Never cry and tell him to take you back, you know…or taking his photo and blowing it up, hanging on your wall, even before the relationship has been established.(hhah....a beg ouh.)

12.Never allow a man to hit you, no matter how drunk he says he was. No matter how angry he says he was. No matter how many demons he says possessed him. a man who hits you doesn’t respect you…and will never stop hitting you. Unless you are a drum...stay and let him beat the drum

13. Never ever be afraid to tell him to go to hell when he is being an ass. Never fail to tell him to get his shit together when he is messing up. Never fail to demand for you to be treated right,,its your right ouh...usichekelee ujinga..

14. Never try using sex to make him love you more. He will take it, do it and still not love you.(ukweli ndo huo)

15. Never think that moving in with him will stop him from cheating on you, if he wants to cheat, he will do it, whether you live together or not

16. Never try having a baby to make him settle for you. That is to mistreat your own child.(huu ni uji..ng...aa mkubwa...pole but had to say),,,never ever call that pregnancy"bahati mbaya"

17. Never compare your relationship with another one. Every relationship is different, because every relationship is unique, and started from a different place….
They say that every relationship has its own headaches,,,advantages and disadvantages...
Never ever look at other people's relatioship and compare with yours....Always be on the watch out and focus on what makes you happy, what to change for better and which one to treasure.
Thanks to my girl L..for sharing
Nikapaste, nikaedit kidogo.
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