What if??is the most dangerous question that one can ask himself.
Maybe fear is not such a bad thing, it causes s us to stop, look around and become situational aware.
Decisions are cost full /have consequences ,, a Moment comes in your life when you decide to be you, you decide to change your lifestyle, turn away from the world, when you put the "goodies of the world " into the dustbin, things you love doing most, things that the world will look at you and say "she has gone nuts ", some will dare tell it to your face "you just so boring"
It is the time when people will walk away from your life..
But,,
Take heart, those that are destined to be with you will remain, and when You trust God he will add more true people in your life to walk with you the narrow route you taking...
Just be yourself and live a clean life..
Remember a friend is someone who knows you well, both the positives and the negatives and still loves you unconditionally...
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Smiles..
C..
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The smiles and laughter we share..."True friends are priceless"
The better quality relationships you can have; the more likely you are to be happy.I am more happy to be a great friend to someone and i keep close my friends..
Some practical things you can do to be there for a friend include:
Listen.The best way to listen is to try and understand the situation from your friends’ point of view. If you aim to do this, you’ll naturally find yourself beginning to ask the right sort of questions and they will appreciate having someone who really cares about how they feel and what they’re going through. You don’t have to have all the answers, and you shouldn't assume your friend wants advice – they might just want to talk so that they can work out what they’re going to do themselves.
Listen.The best way to listen is to try and understand the situation from your friends’ point of view. If you aim to do this, you’ll naturally find yourself beginning to ask the right sort of questions and they will appreciate having someone who really cares about how they feel and what they’re going through. You don’t have to have all the answers, and you shouldn't assume your friend wants advice – they might just want to talk so that they can work out what they’re going to do themselves.
Ask them what they need. If you’re worried about someone and you want to be there for them, just ask them what they need- that way you know what they find helpful during tough times, and you can be there in a way that’s most useful to them.
Get physical. Smiles and hugs are a great way to show friends that they’re not alone, that you’re there for them, and that they are important.
Keep in touch. Even if you guys aren’t nearby each other, making an effort to keep in touch through facebook, emails, texts and calls will show your friend you are there for them.
Tell them how you feel. You don’t have to make a big deal of it all the time but sometimes there are moments where letting someone know that they’re important to you through something you say, can make a big difference to how someone is feeling.
Get the facts. If your friend has a medical condition, or a mental health issue, a good way to offer support is to learn about what they’ve been diagnosed with. Taking an interest in what they’re going through shows that you care, and that you’re planning to stick around no matter what’s going on.
Be willing to make a tough call. If you think the safety of your friend is at risk, you might need to act without their consent and get help Friendship is Sharing..
We share the thoughts..
We share the laughter
We Share the Pose
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| The Cake....very sweet.. |
What you get from young girls..."they teach you how to smile and be easy with life...play...sing, swing,,,enjoy....
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| love this little pumpkin......we were singing "shine bright like a diamond"... |
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| and here we go the big girl on the swing....felt "13" It was such bright Sunday...thanks to my Maputo family... C.. |
DOES IT GIVE YOU COURAGE???
LOLEST!!!
AND YOU CRYING THAT YOU WILL DIE SINGLE....WHO SAID SO..
THEY SAY THAT" THE BEAUTFUL ONES ARE NOT YET BORN" AND
THE SAYING THAT GOES " EVERYONE IS BORN FOR SOMEONE" DID I QUOTE IT RIGHT???
WHAT ABOUT THE SAYING " AGE IS NOTHING BUT A NUMBER"
##FUNNY WISDOMIC WORDS FOR GIVING COURAGE###
Hehe!!
C..
The Change You are about to take.
This is going to that person who is employed and is thinking about going into business, and you, that person who may have just left employment to start a business.
Many people want to go into business. They have certain beliefs, and delusions, about running a successful business. Many want to escape the “restrictions” that employment supposedly imposes, such as the freedom to spend time as they wish and the ability to earn millions in a month.
I want to share with you what I have learned along the way while running my own business in the hope that you will avoid some of the expensive mistakes that many have made.
- 1 The networks you had while in employment are not necessarily going to carry forward into your business. When I left employment, I was working for a prestigious bank.
I assumed that the clients I had then would cross over with me into my small business. They did not. The clients associated with the brand that was behind me, i.e. the bank. When I left the brand, they could not be bothered. I have met many people about to make this mistake. Do not assume that because you are good at your current job, clients will jump into your boat.
You have to be prepared to build a new network and to prove yourself all over again under a new name. Even your close family and friends may very well not become your clients, so do not depend on that. Maybe before you hand in your resignation, see if your proposition is strong enough to attract one or two independent clients who are not associating with you because of the company you work for.
- 2 You will be kicked out of your comfort zone. The lifestyle you had when employed will not be sustainable when in business.
Be ready to not be able to hang out with your friends that much. You will be tempted to show everyone that you are doing well by continuing to live the way you did before. Many times people spend money to accommodate the image and comforts they had while employed. They get an office in the right location with a receptionist and messenger and establish an entertainment budget even before the first client walks in.
They then kid themselves that the money will come. Six months later when reality hits, they have to let go of the support staff they surrounded themselves with. When you are starting out, focus only on the necessary things needed to run the business. Let all other things be dictated by the actual growth of the business.
You may not even need an office to begin with. Be prepared to be the messenger, filing clerk, and sales and marketing executive all at once. You will not have that free time you dreamed about. A day willcome when you have Sh200 in your bank account and still have to keep moving.
This process is about character building and if you are not ready for your character to be challenged, reshaped, and transformed through trials, then business is not for you. The character that is created as you are shoved out of your comfort zone is what is needed to support the growth of your organisation as you build it.
Do not look at a person who has been in business for some time and start comparing yourself or live the life they are living. They have walked a journey of 1,000 miles to get there.
- 3 You will fail if it is only about the money. Two people can start a butchery in the same location. One thrives, the other does not. Why? Because of the motive behind the business.
One is in it for money and the other because he actually likes what he does and enjoys serving people. He will naturally spend more time learning about it and put up proper structures to make the business more efficient. Being passionate and purposeful about what you are doing gives you the “staying power” required to get through the hard times.
Entrepreneurship, at the end of the day, is a fantastic journey; you only learn once you are in it. There is no guarantee that can be provided to you from the sidelines. Commit to the learning process, aware that not everything you plan may come to pass.
The biggest question I think people need to ask is, “Am I ready to change?”
GIVE THE BEST YOU'VE GOT.
A skillful carpenter was ready to retire. He told his employer-contractor of his plans to.leave the house-building business and live a more leisurely life with his wife enjoying his extended family..
He would miss the pay cheque, but he needed to retire. They could get by.
The contractor was sorry to see his good worker go and asked if he could build just one more house as a personal favour..
The carpenter agreed but in time it was easy to see that his heart was not in his work.
He resorted to shoddy workmanship and used inferior materials..It was an unfortunate way to end a dedicated career.
When the carpenter finished his work, the employer came, but instead of the customary inspection, he handed the front door Key to the carpenter.
'This is your house', he said. It's my Gift to you.'
The carpenter was shocked! What a shame! If he had only known he was building his own house, he would have done it differently.
MORAL:
You are the carpenter. Each day you hammer a nail, place a board or erect a wall. Your attitudes and the choices you make today build the "house" you live in tomorrow. Build it Wisely!!
Work like you dont need the money. Love like you've never been hurt. Dance like no body is Watching.
When the carpenter finished his work, the employer came, but instead of the customary inspection, he handed the front door Key to the carpenter.
'This is your house', he said. It's my Gift to you.'
The carpenter was shocked! What a shame! If he had only known he was building his own house, he would have done it differently.
MORAL:
You are the carpenter. Each day you hammer a nail, place a board or erect a wall. Your attitudes and the choices you make today build the "house" you live in tomorrow. Build it Wisely!!
Work like you dont need the money. Love like you've never been hurt. Dance like no body is Watching.
##wisdom words that we need everyday##
C..
IS SUICIDE A SOLUTION???
Is Suicide a Solution??
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| Bollywood actress, Jiah Khan, 25, committed suicide by hanging herself from a ceiling fan in her bedroom at her residence in Mumbai on Sunday June 2nd when her mother and sister were not home. |
I don't know how to say this to you but I might as well now as I have nothing to lose. I've already lost everything. If you're reading this I might have already left or about to leave. I am broken inside. You may not have known this but you affected me deeply to a point where I lost myself in loving you. Yet you tortured me every day.
These days I see no light I wake up not wanting to wake up. There was a time I saw my life with you, a future with you. But you shattered my dreams. I feel dead inside. I've never given so much of myself to someone or cared so much. You returned my love with cheating and lies.
It didn't matter how many gifts I gave you or how beautiful I looked for you. I was scared of getting pregnant but I gave myself completely.
When I first met you I was driven, ambitious and disciplined. Then I fell for you, a love I thought would bring out the best in me. I don't know why destiny brought us together.
After all the pain, the rape, the abuse, the torture I have seen previously I didn't deserve this. I didn't see any love or commitment from you. I just became increasingly scared that you would hurt me mentally or physically.
Your life was about partying and women. Mine was you and my work. If I stay here I will crave you and miss you.
So, I am kissing my 10-year career and dreams goodbye. I never went with anyone else. I am a loyal person. No other woman will give you as much as I did or love you as much as I did. I can write that in my blood...
You never even met my sister. I bought your sister presents... You never appreciated my love, kicked me in the face... The Goa trip was my birthday present but even after you cheated I still spent on you.
I aborted our baby when it hurt me deeply... I wish you had loved me like I loved you... I leave this place with nothing but broken dreams and empty promises. All I want now is to go to sleep and never wake up again...'"
Please and please, abeg ouh....breaking up with someone you Love is not the end of life..
Remember of the life you had before meeting this people.
Remember of the importance of having you for yourself...
Keep in mind that nothing lasts forever not even a picture, the only person who can be with you till the end of time is God, trust me, he is the only one worthy dying for.
As much as that pain you feel in you, be strong enough to fight it back, remember the strong ones are the ones who survives "the rule is survival for the fittest"
Other people experience so much pain more than that of yours, you don't beat em even a little of it.
Stay calm and let God be in charge.
##Have a second thought before you make a step###
C...
Time to Time questions in our Minds..
Do you sometimes feel like changing anything in your personality..
Do you think we can ever erase who we are??Come back from it,things we have done, just everything,
Do we even deserve to??
Have you ever woken up one day just to ask yourself "WHO AM I?WHAT AM I DOING??WHERE AM I HEADING??WHAT IS NEXT??.
Do you sometimes feel like your life is on Suspense/on hold/not balanced..
We sometimes judge ourselves too much and normally don't appreciate ourselves.
Imagine if it was the question of who sinned first we would all go to the garden of Eden,
You don't have to hide from your sins, you kind just face them, but it is one thing to face your sins and it is another to let it eat you alive,
and why do we let things of the past/sins of the past haunt our memory even after asking God to forgive us..
All this should be something to help us focus on what is important.
The question is HOW FAR ARE YOU WILLING TO GO??
Remember that the game requires those that are willing to take the risk.as the saying goes "NO RISK,NO REWARD"
Throw well your one stone to hit two birds....(don't over interpret this sentence)
We can only change our attitudes and views on things we want to, we learn to love them, appreciate them, accept them and say no to what is not good.
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Good Wednesday to you all.
C...
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